What if it was a mom’s world? Sure, we rule a lot of the world directly around us, but what if we were truly in charge of everything. We posed that question (amongst others) when we sat down to interview six women, mothers, neighbors, wives, partners, friends, and individuals with a lot to say. About life, child-rearing, breastfeeding, and what the future holds for moms everywhere.
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What about being a mom is easy? |
To me the easiest thing about being a mom is being able to channel my nurturing energy into someone who actually needs it. All my life I've been a super nurturer for friends and family and I was kind of suffering from taking care of people that aren’t my children. Being a natural nurturer sometimes means you take on that role sometimes to your detriment. When I finally had a kid, it became super clear that this is a gift. So I am thankful for that.
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What is the hardest part about being a mom? |
The hardest part about being a mom for me is remembering to center myself.
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Do you feel respected as a mother? |
I feel like you really have to advocate for respect as a mother because our society does not recognize that motherhood is where so many things start. It is the center of society and when you finally notice that, your perspective changes, and you start to demand to be treated with respect, even from your own family. It is really revolutionary to be a mother.
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What would a mom’s world look like? |
A mom’s world would incorporate a lot more safety. We wouldn't be constantly on the lookout for danger—whether through the environment we live in or other people. It would be understood that we are in service to all child-rearing people and it would come as second nature to protect them and protect their children.
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How can moms show up for other moms? |
Moms can definitely show up for other moms in ways that I think are less effort than we think. Sometimes it is just calling or connecting a mom to other mom friends and having a generous, kind network that you can share.
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Who takes care of you? |
My entire family takes care of me but I definitely have to direct how that care is given and redirect it sometimes too. I think it is about remembering—and this is really hard—because for so long we have been washed out by patriarchy that you are the mom and you are of service to the family. And the family is of service to you. Since making that mindshift, i feel like it is easy for everyone to get on board.
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Tell me about your breastfeeding journey. |
My breastfeeding was definitely a huge journey. I embarked upon it with no actual understanding of the physicality of breastfeeding and the sensation of milk coming in. It was so intense and I felt hurt that other women never told me that you would be crying about your boobs.
I remember a younger nurse came in and asked why I was pancaking my boob! She said, “ Remember you are touching your breasts and these are your heart.” I am so thankful to this woman. She said remember this is your body and this is how you want to touch your body. Of course I know that but you forget.
What would a mom’s world look like to you? Share your story here.
